Unlock Your Growth: Find the Perfect Mentor at a Networking Event

Hey Sis,

Finding a mentor is one of the most impactful moves you can make for both your personal and professional development. But I get it—figuring out how to actually find the right mentor can feel overwhelming. You might be wondering, “Where do I even start?” or “How do I know if someone is the right fit for me?” The truth is, one of the best places to connect with potential mentors is at networking events. But to truly make the most of these opportunities, you’ve got to show up with intention, confidence, and a plan.

Let’s get into how you can make your next networking event the place where you find your mentor. This is about more than just collecting business cards—it’s about building real relationships that could open doors you didn’t even know were there.

Step 1: Define What You Need in a Mentor

Before you even step foot into the event, get clear on what you’re looking for in a mentor. What kind of guidance do you need? Are you looking for help with navigating a career transition, starting a business, or balancing work with your personal life? Knowing your goals will help you zero in on the right people when you meet them.

Equally important is identifying the qualities you want in a mentor. Do you want someone who will challenge you to step outside your comfort zone, or are you seeking a mentor who can offer more emotional support and encouragement? Being specific about your needs will allow you to recognize a good fit when you meet them.

Step 2: Do Your Homework

The key to making the most of any networking event is preparation. Research who will be attending, especially if there’s a list of speakers or key guests. Many events promote their attendees or panelists in advance, and LinkedIn is your secret weapon here.

Look up the backgrounds of potential mentors, and identify anyone whose career path aligns with your goals. You don’t need to know every detail of their resume, but having a solid understanding of who might be in the room gives you confidence when approaching them.

Step 3: Be Ready for Meaningful Conversations

When you’re at the event, don’t just focus on shaking hands and collecting business cards. Your goal is to have meaningful, engaging conversations that set the foundation for future mentorship.

Instead of sticking with the typical “What do you do?” try asking open-ended questions that invite deeper dialogue. Questions like, “What’s been the most exciting project you’ve worked on recently?” or “What advice would you give to someone navigating a similar path as mine?” will open the door to richer discussions and help you gauge whether this person could be the mentor you’re looking for.

Make note of anyone who stands out during your conversations, and be sure to follow up with them later. Mentorship relationships grow from genuine interactions, so focus on building rapport in the moment.

Step 4: Express Your Interest Intentionally

When you meet someone who feels like a potential mentor, don’t be afraid to express your interest—but do it with intention. Instead of asking right off the bat, “Will you be my mentor?” focus on planting the seed.

Once you’ve had a good conversation, you can say something like, “I’ve really enjoyed our conversation, and I think your experience could really help me in areas I’m working on. I’d love to stay in touch and learn more from you in the future.” This gentle approach doesn’t put pressure on the other person but lets them know you’re serious about building a relationship.

Step 5: Follow Up with Purpose

A great connection doesn’t mean much if you don’t follow up. Within a day or two after the event, send a personalized email or LinkedIn message. Mention something specific from your conversation to show that you were truly engaged. Thank them for their time and express your interest in staying connected.

Suggest meeting for coffee, hopping on a quick Zoom call, or attending another event together. The goal is to keep the momentum going and deepen the relationship. Don’t overload them with requests—just focus on building a genuine connection.

Step 6: Show Your Value

Remember, mentorship is a two-way street. While you’ll be gaining valuable insight and guidance, think about how you can offer value in return. Share articles or resources that might interest them, or offer to help with something they’re working on, even in a small way.

Showing that you’re proactive and eager to contribute makes you a more appealing mentee and strengthens the relationship. Mentorship is about mutual growth, so think of ways you can give back to your mentor as well.

Step 7: Be Patient and Persistent

Building a mentor relationship takes time, so don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t happen right away. Sometimes it takes multiple interactions or follow-ups to solidify the connection. Be patient, but also persistent—if you haven’t heard back, don’t hesitate to reach out again. People get busy, and a polite follow-up can remind them that you’re serious about your growth.

You’ve Got This!

Finding a mentor at a networking event may seem challenging, but with a little strategy, confidence, and authenticity, you’ll be well on your way. Remember, you’re not just there to shake hands—you’re there to build relationships that can transform your personal and professional life.

With intention, follow-through, and genuine interest, you’ll not only find a mentor but create a lasting connection that can elevate your growth for years to come.

Your mentor is out there. Go in prepared, be yourself, and trust that you’ll find the right person who’s ready to guide you on your journey.

You’ve got this!

Your Networking Coach,

Dannielle