The #1 Mistake Introverts Make at Networking Events (And How to Fix It)

The #1 Mistake Introverts Make at Networking Events (And How to Fix It)

Let’s be real—networking events can be a lot, especially if you’re an introvert. The idea of walking into a room full of strangers, making small talk, and “putting yourself out there” can feel straight-up exhausting. So what do most introverts do?

They show up without a plan, hoping the right conversations will just happen.

And that, my friend, is the biggest mistake.

The #1 Mistake: Going in Without a Game Plan

If you’ve ever attended a networking event and left feeling like you wasted your time (or worse, didn’t talk to anyone), chances are you went in without a strategy.

Here’s what usually happens:

- You walk in, scan the room, and feel overwhelmed.

- You grab a drink or find a safe spot to stand.

- You wait for someone else to start a conversation.

- Before you know it, an hour has passed, and you’re still standing there, scrolling your phone and wondering when it’s socially acceptable to leave.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone. A lot of introverts make this mistake because they’re hoping to just “go with the flow.” But the problem is, networking events aren’t naturally designed for introverts—they’re loud, fast-paced, and often feel surface-level. If you don’t take control of your experience, you’ll end up fading into the background.

But don’t worry—I’ve got you. Let’s fix this.

How to Actually Enjoy (and Win at) Networking Events

Instead of walking in with zero direction, try this game plan. It’s simple, introvert-friendly, and helps you actually connect with people without feeling drained.

1. Set a Simple Goal

Forget the pressure to “work the room.” Instead, go in with a small, clear goal. Something like:

- “I’m going to introduce myself to three people.”

- “I’m going to have one good conversation with someone in my industry.”

- “I’m going to meet one person I can follow up with later.”

That’s it. Three conversations. One good connection. One follow-up. Way less overwhelming than trying to talk to everyone.

2. Have a Few Go-To Conversation Starters

One of the worst parts of networking is that awkward moment when you don’t know what to say. The fix? Keep a few easy icebreakers in your back pocket:

- “Hey, have you been to this event before?”

- “What’s the coolest project you’re working on right now?”

- “I’m trying to meet new people in [industry]. What do you do?”

This takes the pressure off and keeps the conversation flowing without forcing you to be overly chatty.

3. Find One-on-One Opportunities

If the thought of big group conversations makes you cringe, don’t force it. Instead, look for someone who’s standing alone or seems just as uncomfortable as you. These are the people who also don’t want to force small talk with a big crowd.

One-on-one chats are way easier, more meaningful, and don’t drain your social battery as quickly.

4. Take Breaks When You Need To

You don’t have to be “on” the whole time. If you feel overwhelmed, step outside, take a bathroom break, or find a quiet spot to breathe. The key is managing your energy so you don’t burn out halfway through.

5. Follow Up Like a Pro

Let’s be honest—most networking connections go nowhere because people never follow up. Don’t let that be you!

Send a quick LinkedIn message or email that says something like:

"Hey [Name], it was great chatting with you about [topic]! I’d love to stay in touch—let’s connect."

Boom. Relationship started. No weird sales pitch or pressure, just a simple way to keep the door open.

Remember:

Networking doesn’t have to feel awkward or exhausting. With a little planning, you can actually enjoy these events (or at least not dread them). Focus on making just a few good connections, have some conversation starters ready, and take breaks when you need them.

And most importantly—don’t overthink it. The people you’re talking to? They’re just humans, just like you.

So, next time you’re at an event, try this game plan. You might be surprised at how much easier it feels.

Now tell me—what’s your go-to networking strategy? Let’s chat in the comments!